Hey reader,
So I put forward to my ex-gf to not contact me, even if I contact her. We had been in on and off contact since last year when she dumped me. I thought I could maintain a bond afterwards as she stated she wanted us to be friends and prior to the break-up I had made her the centre of my friends circle... so I tried, but I found it hard.
It's weird to some (particularly when a grey area of a bond hits), but I think it's healthy. Sometimes we cling on to people because they have been a huge part of a persons life. This was a complicated situation to me as their were many aspects that confused me and bothered me enough to feel the need to let it go, no matter how hard I have tried to overlook issues and move forward. I think we need to realise that because people have been close, it doesn't mean we should force a relationship out of it. I mean, I won't be doing that with people that were my best friends when I was 10.
There are many different types of relationships, ones you have with family, friends, that special someone, job, day-today ones (hair dresser, guy at the newsagent, etc) and more, and to me it's important to understand which are important/vital, and to evaluate them too.
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It's weird to some (particularly when a grey area of a bond hits), but I think it's healthy. Sometimes we cling on to people because they have been a huge part of a persons life. This was a complicated situation to me as their were many aspects that confused me and bothered me enough to feel the need to let it go, no matter how hard I have tried to overlook issues and move forward. I think we need to realise that because people have been close, it doesn't mean we should force a relationship out of it. I mean, I won't be doing that with people that were my best friends when I was 10.
There are many different types of relationships, ones you have with family, friends, that special someone, job, day-today ones (hair dresser, guy at the newsagent, etc) and more, and to me it's important to understand which are important/vital, and to evaluate them too.
